Love me!, Like me!, Why can't we be friends!....thaaaaaaats what you say isn't it, come on you know its true. Why do people have this obsessive need to be liked by everyone they meet, needing to be part of a click, part of some social order, some individuals will go out of their way to be nice to people who will never see them as nothing more than a wart on the left butt cheek of the world. AAANNNNNDDDD, Yet they still long to have these self proclaimed kings, and queens of the minor league social life as their friends(I hope those of you reading this post notice that i'm wordsmithing or as its sometimes called wordbuilding,I like to think of myself as a JUGGERNAUGHT of the written word, you know taking these little squiggly, curvey lines, and turning them in to something meaningful, and understandable ,wink,wink, hint,hint, facebook) I was at the store when some guy came up to me, and said he knew me from years back, i told him he must be mistaken, he said no he was sure, he grew up with me he then suggested that we get together at mcdonalds and catch up on old times, I replied (because i did not want to..) sure just let me go get this gun and shoot myself first. He didn't want to talk to me after that, But before he left he did call me several unpleasant names alot were obscene( I know right now most of you are saying ;"I WOULD'VE TO,YOU JERK!!") but my point is i'm not starved for friendship, I dont need anybody to like me, (ok, now because i'm a fair but strict man,i will pretend to be the opposing view point to every thing i just said, and i will do it in BLUE man i bet you guys are saying WOW, this dude is serious"he just gonna and switch'em colahs on us.) Counter person reply:" you lyion you know you want people to like you, eh'body do. If people didn't like you how would you know if you were handsome,or nice Jac! you dont know what your talk'n bout you qwazee, and you got a big mouth, and think you know evah'thin." Hi I'm Jac! i'm back, my reply to mr,or mrs counter person is this we are social being this is with out a doubt(Theres that word again with a "B", it has a "B"but its pronounced "dout" come on english!) let me get back on track, just because we are social beings does not mean we have to be a part of every group, organization, hangout, or friendship. Our culture today has people thinking they are nothing unless their part of something other than themselves,I'll try to explain what i mean this way,you are an artist you choose to do project involving apples and oranges so you begin, a fuji apple is an apple its just one, lets say you have a basket of oranges sitting on a table you decide to put your fuji apple in the basket of oranges so you do now you have a basket filled with oranges and one fuji apple, so now you decide to get a basket and put 5 granny smiths,5 pink ladies,5 goldens,and 5 Delicious apples inside, what do you have you have a pretty heavey basket of apples, but just apples, so someone comes to you someone you really want to be excepted by and says hey that ain't right! Take that apple out of that orange basket, and put it the other apples thats where it needs to be, what do you want people to think your some kind of idiot or freak for doing that you must be wierd or something dont you know the difference stupid. This potential friend of yours calls other potential friends of yours to come over and laugh, make fun of and humiliate your piece of art and you, and once their finished cementing their friendship with you by way of a little light hearted chuckling, they leave. So you stand there confused asking yourself why don't they like me? not wanting to be called anymore unflattering names you remove the fuji apple and put it with the other apples (shame on you for trying to be different, don't you ever try to be somebody)you calm yourself look accross the room "ohno"their coming back their moving towards you again,you did everything they asked you to do maybe this time they'll be nicer(Their not..), maybe this time they'll let you join in their reindeer games( oh, santa one can only hope) they stop, they point ,they laugh, and walk off , you stand asking what did i do wrong. Nothing, that fuji apple was still the same fuji apple even in a basket full of apples, it was still the same apple in a basket full of oranges the props are not what brought the on lookers the placement of the fruit was not what made it different, you are what made the difference and thats why you were made fun of . Your willingness to be an original, my explaination may be long winded, but my point is this you will never be able to please everybody you will alwaysbe called names, and laughed at you have to toughen up take the bitter with the sad, be comfortable with who you are, because unless you can be friends with yourself you can never be friends with anyone else. So let them talk, and be you for you, its so much more easier then trying to remember who your pretending to be, so fakers can like you - Jac!
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