THEY SAY THAT BREAKING UP, IS HARD TO DOOO, NOW I KNOW. I KNOW, THAT IT'S TRUE. (How do you like that , I was just blog singing, and I sound pretty good in text form, Now "mush"on with the post )
She loves me, She loves me not, He loves me, He loves me not, sound familar it should, itssss you
during that fleeting moment, when all the planets, are alighned, and the stars are brightly shining, and you think it can't get any better then this, your so happy,....... until that anvil drops on your head.
How are those bright stars looking to you now, welcome to reality, hard knocks 101, and in lesson one you learn despite what you think, or may be experienceing theirs is no such thing as mister, or mrs's right regardless if its your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee,or husband/wife, to put it bluntly their all just loser you have to deal with, freeloaders you need to compromise with, in order to have a somewhat happy life which usually doesn't work, example one, high divorce rate, example two murder/suicides over some perverse idea of true love ( I know some of you are saying, right now
Whoooaa, Whoooaa YOU BASTARD, where the hell is all that coming from.) I'm glad you asked
you see i've noticed something, for some reason ( and i've posted a similar rant somewhere on this blog or my website jacmania online) that people men, and women from ages 9 or 10 to 90 or 100 don't seem to think they can survive with out having some person hanging on them or around them especially women.
This need to connect , or find yourself through someone else, is very destructive, i understand loneliness, wanting, and longing to share yourself with some one else, to be able to experience another person ideas, and to allow them to in to your world , and to share with them all that you have acquired. I understand this, more then you know, but the problem is that to many people assume the first person they meet, or the second , or third , or fourth who smiles at them, calls them baby and takes an intrest in them, relateing to them on a serious emotional level ( and i'm not just talking about women here, this happens to men also..) when this happens a false connection is made the man or women starts to believe this is the one, and if your in middle school, or high school ....Man are you in for the biggest toilet flush of your life .... your hearts broken, shredded like a block of cheese on a cheese gradder ( By the way i had a massive homemade Burrito with three kinds of shreded cheese, lots of chilli i really could never be a health food fanatic i love junk food :).
Their is no Mister right, or Mrs right ( I GOT IT , it was this blog where i mentioned this topic, to be honest with you this particular post was supposed to be posted back at the begining of may i'm notorious for putting things off sometimes for a year or two ) But anyway ( not anyways...) people have got to stop trying to live through other people, because this is what can happen, those people
your trying to find yourself through will get tired of being your mirror, they have their life ,and identity they are not interested in reflecting back to you a false image that you projected on to them.
But then again you have those men, and women who don't mind projecting their image, and personality on to someone their in a relationship with , totally absorbing that person dictating , and controlling as much of that person as possible until that individual decides to grow , thats when the problem starts. It doesn't matter if it's a man or woman in the controlling role , once the passive partner decides to grow and expand their horizons the one who's always been the more visible and outgoing ( dominant ) feels threatened , a feeling of losing control , especially when your entire world up to that point was built around the knowingly or unknowingly control of one person.
Now you can't put all the blame for a failed relationships on the controllers, or the ones who choose not to be a part of a sic fantasy relationship, the women and the men bare 3/4's of the blame because of their neediness, and their desire to be someone , by being with someone and when it falls apart they bitch and complain to whatever friend or social media their connected with not understanding, because they have a unnatural longing to be loved at any cost, that if your not comfortable in the skin your in , you'll never be truly loved by anyone because you will always make them uneasy , and they will always see you as phoney because your not happy being in the skin your in.
Don't be in a relationship you have doubts about , Don't be a part of couple just because your lonely ( get a fish , no they die get aaaaaa... get a crocadile, yeah..) and don't get caught up in looks , the wrappings of a gift are always nice to look at , but whats on the inside, something good and useful or dog crap with grass stuck to it .
The next time you think of asking someone you been dating for three months are you the one, because they came at the right time when you needed healing from a busted up relationship, or some sort of family problems involving your parents, remember their going to say YEA! but the rest of that statment is ... The one for right now. - Jac!
P.S.- I just got a notice from facebook- Happy Birthday to Kelly , Paige , Lia , B.G
during that fleeting moment, when all the planets, are alighned, and the stars are brightly shining, and you think it can't get any better then this, your so happy,....... until that anvil drops on your head.
How are those bright stars looking to you now, welcome to reality, hard knocks 101, and in lesson one you learn despite what you think, or may be experienceing theirs is no such thing as mister, or mrs's right regardless if its your boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancee,or husband/wife, to put it bluntly their all just loser you have to deal with, freeloaders you need to compromise with, in order to have a somewhat happy life which usually doesn't work, example one, high divorce rate, example two murder/suicides over some perverse idea of true love ( I know some of you are saying, right now
Whoooaa, Whoooaa YOU BASTARD, where the hell is all that coming from.) I'm glad you asked
you see i've noticed something, for some reason ( and i've posted a similar rant somewhere on this blog or my website jacmania online) that people men, and women from ages 9 or 10 to 90 or 100 don't seem to think they can survive with out having some person hanging on them or around them especially women.
This need to connect , or find yourself through someone else, is very destructive, i understand loneliness, wanting, and longing to share yourself with some one else, to be able to experience another person ideas, and to allow them to in to your world , and to share with them all that you have acquired. I understand this, more then you know, but the problem is that to many people assume the first person they meet, or the second , or third , or fourth who smiles at them, calls them baby and takes an intrest in them, relateing to them on a serious emotional level ( and i'm not just talking about women here, this happens to men also..) when this happens a false connection is made the man or women starts to believe this is the one, and if your in middle school, or high school ....Man are you in for the biggest toilet flush of your life .... your hearts broken, shredded like a block of cheese on a cheese gradder ( By the way i had a massive homemade Burrito with three kinds of shreded cheese, lots of chilli i really could never be a health food fanatic i love junk food :).
Their is no Mister right, or Mrs right ( I GOT IT , it was this blog where i mentioned this topic, to be honest with you this particular post was supposed to be posted back at the begining of may i'm notorious for putting things off sometimes for a year or two ) But anyway ( not anyways...) people have got to stop trying to live through other people, because this is what can happen, those people
your trying to find yourself through will get tired of being your mirror, they have their life ,and identity they are not interested in reflecting back to you a false image that you projected on to them.
But then again you have those men, and women who don't mind projecting their image, and personality on to someone their in a relationship with , totally absorbing that person dictating , and controlling as much of that person as possible until that individual decides to grow , thats when the problem starts. It doesn't matter if it's a man or woman in the controlling role , once the passive partner decides to grow and expand their horizons the one who's always been the more visible and outgoing ( dominant ) feels threatened , a feeling of losing control , especially when your entire world up to that point was built around the knowingly or unknowingly control of one person.
Now you can't put all the blame for a failed relationships on the controllers, or the ones who choose not to be a part of a sic fantasy relationship, the women and the men bare 3/4's of the blame because of their neediness, and their desire to be someone , by being with someone and when it falls apart they bitch and complain to whatever friend or social media their connected with not understanding, because they have a unnatural longing to be loved at any cost, that if your not comfortable in the skin your in , you'll never be truly loved by anyone because you will always make them uneasy , and they will always see you as phoney because your not happy being in the skin your in.
Don't be in a relationship you have doubts about , Don't be a part of couple just because your lonely ( get a fish , no they die get aaaaaa... get a crocadile, yeah..) and don't get caught up in looks , the wrappings of a gift are always nice to look at , but whats on the inside, something good and useful or dog crap with grass stuck to it .
The next time you think of asking someone you been dating for three months are you the one, because they came at the right time when you needed healing from a busted up relationship, or some sort of family problems involving your parents, remember their going to say YEA! but the rest of that statment is ... The one for right now. - Jac!
P.S.- I just got a notice from facebook- Happy Birthday to Kelly , Paige , Lia , B.G
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