No one has ever promised you a rose garden, so why do so many people think they are due something in which they have not worked or givin sweat for? : Good question, let me tell you why.
When were born we have unlimited, and unknown potential as we grow we discover each what we are capable of and what we're incapable of, we start to learn what we like, what we dislike in time we realize that we have a gift for something no one else can do in the manner that we can do.
So at an early age (let's say 8 through 12 ) we decide in our minds that this is something we want to do, were happy we share it with our family and friends, now in fantasy land that would be the end of the story their would be a happy ending those young children would achieve their dreams and live happy ever after, but this is real life and in real life in some families when a child approaches an adult family member with dreams and aspirations their slapped down and step on, their dreams are cast in to the trash can along side that adult family members dreams.
And if its not the mother, father, aunt , uncle or grandparents who crushes the life out of that childs hopes, and dreams its a sibling or friend, or teacher if you posses the special gift of singing and at a young age you begin to explore that talent seeing were you can take it and while learning all that you can about your abilities, and your gift your suddenly told your singing sounds like ( Just adding a little humor here :) glass bottles being broke over a homeles man's head, your going to be devastated and most likely that will be the last time you will be open publicly about what your true talent is , for the most part people who experience this type of negative enforcement about something they truely believe they can do effortlessly at a young age wheather its singing, danceing, drawing, math, reading you name it once they've been riddiculed they shut down and move on to persue something they don't love , but doesn't bring any riddicule they attempt to excell and some may , but their never happy.
The purpose of this post is to simply say be careful about, and at times police what you say to young children , I've met lots of people ( Adults ) who are very talented , creative, good organizers , but when they were young something was told to them that stop their momentum and march towards their dream, and once the words of discouragement took root in their mind no one chose to support them by motivating them to believe in what they can be, I know at times it can be hard to remember to say to your child "Great job, or your going to be a success", because real life happens so imagine how hard it is to say to an adult those same words , but maybe its time we did i've wittness personally individuals some of whom are followers of this blog, who have phenominal talent singing , writing , danceing, instrument playing so i make it a point to complement talent when i see it, regardless of what type of skills, or abilities if some one displays a gift or does something well "Don't hate , Praise them", in doing so your helping humanity by reduceing the number of people on this planet who think that by just being alive they deserve something with out struggling , and working for it, this is Real life nothing's free.
Real life is what happen's when you get a backbone, and except responsibility your actions , You are and will always be what you think you are , do you want to be a success "Be it", do you want to be a failure " Be it". - Jac!
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